A Post About Confidence

DAY 12

Confidence is a value that in many ways controls our lives. If you want to impress that boy or girl you'll need confidence. If you wanted to get through a job interview you would need confidence. To earn the trusts of others you would need confidence. 

What Makes This Value So Highly Sought After?

Everyone has a rational voice in their head that monitors each of their decisions. It's there to minimise the risk of failure and embarrassment. In doing so it often tells leads to decisions such as to not talk to that boy or girl and not apply for that job interview. There's zero risk for failure and embarrassment, but also zero chance of success.

People who are confident aren't affected by their subconscious fears. They seek out opportunities and create chances for success. They focus on the chance of success rather than the chance of failure, and try to maximise that chance with the present situation.

By focusing on the success they display a sense of "knowing what they are doing". They strive to bring the situation into the direction that they want. They have a vision of success and aren't afraid to share it with others. Naturally people are attracted to these visions and give more value to a confident individual. Confident people focus on the success and that's what people want.

Finding Confidence Within Yourself

There is no easy way to find confidence and that's a fact. People are confident because they have been through failure and have experienced the paths to failure. They know how to fail and that's actually a valuable attribute. They know the right things to avoid rather than avoiding the whole situations themselves. 

A person can go through a bout of success after success, but suddenly fail hard resulting in a loss of confidence. In these situations of adversity a person must be able to remain confident and persevere. People who have failed will know how to keep this composure. 

For example a person, as a young man, would need to find confidence to approach women. If they get rejected it would be a huge blow to their self-confidence, but they can learn and experience many approaches to learn that it isn't as bad as they think. Through experience they can build a tougher and stronger sense of self-confidence.

By knowing what leads to failure they will also know what leads to success. They've seen and experienced success, and know what to look out for. Condition yourself through many difficult situations and confidence would eventually emerge.